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  1. Dang it,
    It was as close as I ever came to being a rock star. We would always yell to the kids…come look your cousin is on T.V. again. They hated it when I started playing air drums. All kidding aside. I can tell you will be fine by your attitude. Can’t say I would be as strong. Best of luck.
    Mark, and family.

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  3. Back in 2005, I created a Yahoo group called Road Widows. When Facebook and MySpace took off, I transferred the groups and now we are solely on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/group.php?v=wall&gid=146977025620 . I can relate to what so many of you here are going through. My boyfriend is skilled trades, pipefitting, and has been on the road since 2005 traveling the country rebuilding oil refineries. He finally landed a job close to home and we can see each other every weekend now instead of once a month or every other month. Curiosity got the better of me today and I did a search for Road Widows and this blog came up🙂 I’m glad I did!


    • So glad you found us! I started this blog in 2009 (I think – ha!) to be an outlet for me and hopefully serve as a resource for all the other wives/girlfriends out there whose husbands were in the music industry. There’s so much support out there for military wives, and while I don’t think our lives compare with what they go through, I did find support lacking for those of us who get left behind as our husbands chase their rockstar dreams. As we grew our following, I realized that so many other people can relate to what we’re going through – not just those in the music industry! So I am so happy that you googled road widows and that you found our blog. I hope you enjoy it and what you read. I’ll have to seek out your group on Facebook!

  4. I sob with relief and joy at finding this site. For me, the loneliness is hardest to deal with because it’s hard for others to understand. “How can you be “lonely” when you are married to this great person?” This site makes me less lonely and more normal. With no need for explanations.

  5. I burst into tears at work after finding this blog/site. My boyfriend & I have lived together for a very short time, and his band has suddenly started to truly take off. After a year of building our relationship on certain expectations & short tours, I am suddenly facing a future of being a road widow. I feel as though I’m in mourning-I can’t stop feeling engulfed in fear, worry and loneliness. It is not and never will be enough for me to let him go, as he is the man I will always love, and visa versa….but we are in a transition and I’m mourning the relationship we had before.
    I am a 30 year old woman with a full time corporate job, making $ tight & time off difficult. It will be hard to see him while he is on the road.
    I thought that I had a support system, but a few of these comments are in line with what I have discovered. I have received responses like “distance makes the heart grow fonder”, “you knew what you were getting into” and “well good thing you don’t have kids”. The worst is “well, you’ll find out if this is something you can do”. This is not a matter of being in our out of the relationship. I am 100% in with no plans to leave. I simply have to learn to make a new phase work! That comment is the worst yet, to me.
    No one seems to truly understand the painful transition we are in together. I also don’t want to put all of the pain onto my man, who already misses me & has the stress and strain of touring going on as well. It is one thing to ask for a little extra loving message one day, but he can’t fix me and he can’t fix my loneliness.
    I know this message sounds very bleak. I liked the post about the freshman year. I feel as though this heaviness is a transitional period, and finding this blog already gives me some hope – light at the end of the tunnel.
    I do want to add that I have LOTS going on in my own life and am very fulfilled. I fill my time with friends & activities. It’s just, at this moment, not as bright when he’s away. Also, I take care of all 3 of our dogs alone when he is gone, causing some struggle we have been dealing with. I know it sounds lame, but the posts about parenting were actually rather helpful for that.
    Anyway, wow, this was a really long reply. I’m not one to follow blogs, let alone write to one. I just wanted to express how thankful I was to find this in the midst of a pretty difficult time. Thank you! I will be reading more and more, and eventually, I hope to have experience and insight to help others as well!

    • I wish I could give you a big hug right now. You are NOT alone and we are all here and happy to be a support system as best we can!

      Oh man, all those responses are the WORST. “You knew what you were getting into,” is the modern day, “You made your bed now go lay in it.” Ugh.

      “You’ll find out if this is something you can do.” I have no doubt you can, for one. For two, they’d be far more supportive to say, “Let me know what I can do to help you!” because we DO need a support system. We need people we can lean on when the times get tough — because they DO get tough. But you’ll fall into a rhythm of this life. I can’t necessarily say it gets easier (and honestly, I don’t think it should!) but it will become, well, normal.

      But until that time comes, feel free to vent to us, ask questions, etc. And in time you’ll find what works for you. You’ll find your footing in this new life — you both will. And, yes, you will be giving advice to other new road widows in no time!

      • Yes, yes and yes. Thank you so much Nise. Your reply was encouraging and incredibly helpful.
        I suppose the transition into this world is not only going to adjust my romantic relationship, but will show me what true friends with real support look like. Along the way I assume some friendships may change….Interesting how these life changes effect more relationships than just the two of us.
        I absolutely will be scouring all the archives & reading every post, especially when he is out of town again. I’ll be re-reading & posting replies on old stuff I’m sure;) Venting all along the way. I really can’t tell you how helpful this site has already been-I’m sure you’ll here from me again soon!🙂 Thanks again!

  6. This site has been an absolute god send this week, thank you, thank you!
    I live in the UK and I was wondering if you know of anything like this closer to home? I have searched the internet pretty thoroughly and can only find ‘road widow’ support in the States.
    Just knowing that other women feel the strains of the road is such a relief…I actually thought I was starting to go a bit mad!
    You should all be really proud of this space: it is truly healing!🙂

  7. Hi. I’m a musician currently on tour away from my sweetheart. I’ve looked through and seen a lot about how you all can better be there for us (which I greatly appreciate), but I haven’t seen much about what you all need from us while we’re away to make the time apart easier, or at least more bearable, for you. Will you dedicate an article, or lead me to existing articles, on this topic, please?

  8. Hello, I’m very glad to have found this site. I’m engaged to a man whose on tour about 4 months a year. We have been together 7 years, & he didn’t start touring until 5 years in. We’re both self employed & our lives are completely intertwined when he’s here. But when he leaves I feel dropped into a void. I have no idea what to do w my self. Any advice on jumping back & fourth between this double life where all the sudden your alone & realize you’ve got to build a life that doesn’t include him. & also how to maintain those interests & relationships when he comes back.
    Thank you

  9. My name is Tori and I live in the Nashville area as well! (Technically Murfreesboro but I don’t think anyone cares to claim Murfreesboro since Nashville is much better!) I have been having a little bit of a hard time adjusting to my boyfriend being on tour and thought there had to be other people in the same boat. I googled and found this blog. I have to say it has really helped me accept that being upset is ok. And venting is normal. I know I’m not a veteran “road widow” so I definitely won’t pretend like I know how hard this can actually be. But I’m getting a taste of it. I know I want to be with this man forever and I was hoping that maybe you could help me with some tips on how you handled the first year of touring. My boyfriend, Steven has been on tour now for about 6 weeks with two more weeks to go. Last year was 8 months of touring apparently. I’m struggling. Another hard aspect is the lead singer of his band is his ex girlfriend. I know I have nothing to worry about but it doesn’t make it easier. I am a jealous human being sometimes. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. Sorry to write a book! Thank you!

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  11. Os this group still active? If so I would like to join. My spouse tours nationally/internationally 200+ days out of the year. We reside in Colorado. Hard to find many other tour widows in this neck of the country.


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