I spent last night in a hotel.
No kids, no husband. Just me.
And it was weird. But good.
My husband is gone a LOT this month. So the “night off” was an attempt to give me a break, allowing me to rest and rejuvenate myself for the coming weeks alone. Even though it would take more than one night to truly get there … I made the most of it!
I holed up in the hotel room. Got dinner and ate it in the room. Read my book. Worked on the computer. Watched a movie. Slept. With no interruptions! Woke up at my normal 5:30 am. And forced myself to go back to bed. Stayed in bed until 8 am (trust me, that is late for me!). Ate breakfast in peace. Took my time.
It was SO nice.
Yet I think the cooler thing about this complete role reversal for my husband and I, is the perspective it offered each of us. He was at home with the kids doing the things I do day in and day out– feeding them, doing the bedtime routine, putting them to bed, being on call in the middle of the night, waking up with them in the morning, dressing them, playing with them and getting them out of the house.
I, on the other hand, got a taste of what it’s like for him when he’s on the road. How relaxing it is to be by yourself … but also how lonely it can be too. Now, I’ll admit, in just one night I didn’t feel too lonely! But I can see how it would be that way if I traveled like he does. While I am with the kids everyday, he isn’t. And it’s easy to see that doing what he does would make me miss those little faces and the normalcy that being at home brings. I often get jealous of the break he gets when he goes to work. But having one night in his shoes, I know the break he gets isn’t enough to make me want to travel and live out of a suitcase like he does.
While last night’s hotel stay was relaxing and I am very thankful for the opportunity to take a break. What I am even more thankful for is the appreciation both my husband and I now have for each other’s roles in this crazy life we lead. As well as the renewed appreciation I now have for my own role. If you’re a momma, I highly recommend it!